Last week if you listened to our show I was not on due to the passing of my Mother in Law.
A lot of comics make Mother in law jokes myself included, which always bothered me as hacky but even more so as the take I had was really not the truth. My Mother in law was one of the sweetest and kindest people you would ever meet.
I met my wife Joanne in nineteen ninety-two four months after my mom passed away. I remember the first time having dinner at Joanne’s parents house and her mom made sausage and peppers, now just loosing an Italian Mother I almost cried because I never thought I would eat food like that again.
My Mother in law always showed me kindness and loved me like a son and I always called her “My Mommy” because she took over the reins from my Mother when she passed away. My mother in laws passing hit me very hard not only because she was sweet and dear to me, but also as a middle-aged adult you start loosing people that are your support system.
Okay grief filled stupid what are you talking about? Here is the deal, when you were a kid you looked to parents for guidance, support, and love.
The bottom line is it was comforting to know that there was person who was either a parent or an Aunt or an Uncle, or the neighborhood Mom that was there to keep an eye out for you. They were your support system.
As an adult, chances are that you are that support system yourself now, but as an Adult you still look to those people that were there for you as a kid, and the sad part is for a lot of us they are no longer there. The loss of my Mother in law last week is somebody that will no longer be there just like my Father in law a year and a half ago, just like my mother twenty years ago and so on.
I still have my Aunt and I have my Brother John who are still my main people in my support system but both are in there eighties and when time comes when they pass I will have no one.
This year I am going to try to spend some more time with them and tell them how important they are in my life.
So please look at your support system, tell them you love them and how much they mean to you and be there for the ones that look to you for support and let them know that you will be there for them as ours are and were to us.